I know all about primary colors. As an art major in college, I’m sure I know more information than necessary about primary colors. Primary colors are the basic colors: red, yellow, and blue. Those three colors make all of the other colors. When I first heard the words ‘primary food’, I immediately thought about the fruits and vegetables. What’s more primary, or basic, than something growing from nature? I was soooo wrong. ( I am learning so much at IIN!)
You see, primary food isn’t food at all. I know that seems like an illogical statement. Allow me to explain….
The food that we consider edible nutrition is really our secondary food. Take yourself back in time to when you were a kid…..When I was a kid (a thousand years ago), my sister and I used to play outside everyday. Mom would have to make us come inside to eat. We’d eat just enough to satisfy her requests because we were so anxious to return to our fun. I clearly remember that sitting at the dinner table was not fun. We laughed, we rode bikes, we played dress-up and we never worried about what we were going to eat next. We never ate mindlessly in front of the television. We were entirely too busy for that! Food took a backseat to the rest of our lives. When we were hungry, we ate. When we weren’t hungry, we didn’t think about food. As children, we lived on primary food. In case you haven’t figured it out, primary food is everything else that gives you energy and life, besides edible food. Primary food can’t be found in a plate or in a bag. Primary food has zero calories and won’t increase the girth of our thighs.
Thanks mom, for making me wear a kerchief. Were those really in style?
Somewhere down the road to adulthood, it happened. Someone gave us a special food when we were sick, sad, or even happy. Over time, our minds began to associate food with feelings. Food became the Great Comforter. When my first marriage began to fall apart, I’d eat to feel comfort. My marriage was lacking and I looked for anything that would fill the void. I’d feel a temporary happiness when I ate, but then the overwhelming guilt would surface. And no matter how much I ate, I never felt satisfied. Over time, any emotion became an excuse to overeat. I’d eat when I was sad, depressed, anxious, or even happy. Does any of this sound familiar to you?
So, in order to fix the mess I had created, I had to learn to separate my feelings from my edible secondary food. I had to get my life in check! There are twelve components of primary food. If any of these components of primary food are off, it can so easily affect your longing for secondary food.
1. Joy– Do you do something that you enjoy on a regular basis? For me, personally, I drink a glass of wine or browse through a decorating magazine. Sometimes, it’s the small things that give you the most joy.
Three fantastic ounces of wine and a little jazz is all I need to feel relaxed. Red wine has health benefits!
2. Spirituality- Do you feel connected to a higher being, no matter your religious preference? I know that praying to God daily gives me a feeling of contentment.
3. Creativity– Do you have a creative outlet? No, you don’t have to paint…..My creative outlets, besides painting, are writing and cooking!
4. Finances– Have you created a budget? Budgets create a sense of control over your finances. I have a very difficult time saving! I feel much more secure when I plan what I am going to spend, rather than buying things impulsively.
5. Career- Is your career fulfilling? If not, what have you always wanted to do? How can you make a bad situation less stressful? I used to have a problem with discipline until I developed a reward system that solved my issues. Awesome Artist, anyone?
6. Education- Are you learning new things? Any time you learn something new, you feel an increase in self-worth. I remember when I learned how to use a hammer to remove nails from the wood. I was super proud of myself! It was very strange and unnatural that I had to learn to do that…..
I’m tearing down an old house so the we could use the reclaimed wood. Tearing down a house was never on my list of “things to do before I die”.
7. Health– Are you doing things to create a healthy body? Can you add one healthy thing to your diet?
8. Physical Activity– Are you doing something besides sitting? I hate going to the gym, but walking outside is down-right pleasurable!
9. Home Environment– Is there a stressful situation in your household? Can you make a plan to resolve a stressful situation? I always find that I feel less stressed in a neat environment. Even if my house is a wreck, my living room is usually neat and stress-free.
10. Relationships– Are you doing things to work towards bettering the relationships in your life? Ashton and I always make time to do things that we enjoy together. Are you purging yourself of toxic relationships?
One of our favorite date nights is at Wine and Design! Don’t be fooled. Guys like it!
11. Nutrition- Are you eating a variety of healthful foods each day?
12. Social Life- Are you connecting with other people? You get double points if you are connecting in person, rather than on Facebook!
Once I worked on these components, I noticed a drastic change in my need for secondary food. Now, when I’m not physically hungry, I address my feelings when I felt the urge to mindlessly eat. I still feel happiness and joy when I do eat, but it’s much different than the need I once had to eat to calm my rampant emotions. So, I urge you to try working on your primary foods. The more you increase your primary foods, the less you will rely on those secondary foods as your main source for happiness!
Are getting the primary foods you need in your daily life?